Mary Etta Milteer

   Cause of her death was Pneumonia / T B.

  General Notes:

The 2nd wife of Bolden Riddick Doughtie was Etta Miltiere who, according to family notes, was a 1st cousin of Bolden's 1st wife, Cornelia. It is a fact, recorded in the 1880 Federal Census, that Mary Etta Miltiere was living (with her parents and siblings) next door to Bolden, Cornelia and family. (1880, Nansemond Co., Va., ED#53, page 66B records Bolling R. Doughte (sic) and family) ... see general notes on her grand mother, Margaret Savage, for 1st cousin relationship.

According to Inez Daughtrey Hagen (this researcher's mother) Mary Etta was known to the family as Cousin Et(ta). Etta was a housekeeper for B R Doughtie after the death of his wife, Cornelia. Bolden and Etta would later marry (as told to me by my cousin, Bolden Riddick Doughtie, grandson of B R Doughtie as well as my mom, Inez Daughtrey Hagen in 1999)

According to Bolden's great grand daughter Ginny Layman in 2004: "Mary Etta claimed Bolden owed her money at his death. His property and possessions were auctioned to pay Mary Etta's claims. Sons Luther and Wise Carlton bid on many of their father's belongings. Etta did not like the step children and they did like her."

She is buried in the MILTEER CEMETERY http://www.rootsweb.ancestry.com/~vaschs/ncocem2.txt
Located in Whaleyville, Va.; from Suffolk, take route 13 south to Whaleyville, turn right on Mineral Springs Road, go about 2 miles, cross springs and the cemetery is on the left about 30 yards from the roadside.
Additional information by Kelly P. Miltier (April 1999)
Mary Etta Milteer Doughtie
July 18, 1865
October 26, 1937
d/o William Francis and Mary Anne Byrd Milteer
Her parents are buried here as well.

The 1930 Federal Census for the Holy Neck District of Nansemond Co., Va., ED 6, page 97B, dated April 2, 1930 in Holland Town, records Etta Danghtis (sic) [Doughtie] (65) living with her sister, Emily Milteer (67), and brother, Frank P. Milteer (71), on Main Street. Emily is the head of household, single, and a seamstress. Frank is married but no wife is listed. Etta is listed as a widow.

In a Feb 13, 2004 email from Ginny Layman:
... According to what my mother told me several years ago her grandfather [Bolden Riddick Doughtie] did have a farm and sawmill, but when he died the children got nothing that they were supposed to get because his second wife, Mary Etta Milteer, claimed he owed money to her and she took everything. B.R. [Doughtie, grandson of Bolden] and my mother were discussing this at my Aunt Hazel's funeral and he said his father never got anything he was supposed to (I was standing there and heard this myself). He agreed with my mother's statement. The way they talked none of the children liked Mary Etta and she didn't like them, so, other than what Uncle Carlton and Granddaddy bought at the estate sale, they got nothing else. I don't know exactly where the farm is but will ask my Aunt Allie if she knows. I don't think my mother will be able to remember, but I'll try. ...

See research notes on her father regarding personal information taken from the 1885 edition of Hardesty's Historical and Geographical Encyclopedia.

  Medical Notes:

Virginia, Death Records, 1912-2014
Name: Mrs Etta M Doughtey [Mrs Etta M Milteer] (widow)
Residence: Holland, VA
Occupation: Housewife, Retired
Gender: Female
Race: White
Age at Death: 72
Birth Date: 18 Jul 1865 in Nansemond Co., VA
Death Date: 27 Oct 1937
Death Place: Holland, Nansemond, Virginia
Burial: Milteer Family Cemetery in Nansemond Co., VA
Father: W F Milteer born Nansemond Co., VA
Mother: Mary Ann Byrd born Nansemond Co., VA
Spouse: Mr Bouchy (sic - transcription) [Bolden] Doughtey (sic)
Informant: Mrs. F. L. Ballard of Holland, VA

Mary married Bolden Riddick Doughtie, son of William (Henning) Doughtie and Ann (Nancy) Elizabeth Smith, on 2 Jun 1895 in Nansemond Co, VA..²⁸ (Bolden Riddick Doughtie was born in Mar 1847 in Gates Co, NC (Around Edenton), died on 27 Jul 1921 in Nansemond Co, VA. and was buried in Liberty Springs Christian Church Cemetery, Nansemond Co., VA.)

  Marriage Notes:

Part of an email from Ginny Layman included documentation on the marriage:
Subject: Doughtie Genealogy
Date: Tue, 10 Aug 2004 15:03:39 -0400 (EDT)
From: Laymanrv@aol.com
To: lhagen@vt.edu
You will not believe what I stumbled across while looking for some Cutchin information. A few years ago while in the Clerk's Office in Suffolk, I copied down some Doughtie marriages (not knowing who they were) and ... look what I found in my marriage records book:
Husband: Borland R. Doughtie
Wife: Mary Etta Milteer
married 2 Jun 1895, Nansemond Co., VA


Virginia, Select Marriages, 1785-1940
Name: Borland R. Doughtie
Gender: Male
Age: 48
Birth Date: 1847
Marriage Date: 2 Jun 1895
Marriage Place: Nansemond, Virginia
Father: William H. Doughtie
Mother: Ann Elizabeth
Spouse: Mary Etta Milteer
Gender: Female
Age: 30
Birth Date: 1865
Father: William F. Milteer
Mother: Mary Ann
FHL Film Number: 2048463
Reference ID: 277